Trauma types
Everyone has trauma (emotional wounding) to some degree. Therapy helps with every trauma type especially EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) and trauma focused CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). The behaviours that reduce stress help reduce trauma too (good nutrition, sleep, exercise etc).
| Trauma type | Defensive behaviour | Healing behaviour |
|---|---|---|
| Neurodivergence | Focus issues, unconventional thinking, inconsistency, more thinking than doing, rage, deflection of blame, oppositional | Techniques to improve punctuality and reliability, goal setting, looking at what part you played in the problem |
| Dependency | Addictions, financial dependence, co-dependency | Get help with addictions, work on reducing addictions, budget, find ways to earn more, find ways to support yourself |
| Pleaser | Passivity, aggressive passivity, accommodation, inefficiency due to doing what’s noticed | Work out what you want. Ask for what you want. Say no to what you don’t want. Be valued for who you are not what you do |
| Controller | Wanting everything your way, aggressive when feeling betrayed, short cuts | Accommodate others where you can without compromising yourself. Show appreciation to others. Increase compliance. |
| Rescuer | Minor addictions, workaholism, codependence | Work up to 50 hours, reduce addictions, stop enabling dependence of others and depleting yourself for others (apart from dependent children) |
| Perfectionist | Criticism, stone walling | Look at strengths, value continuous improvement |